My Take on the Dreadful and Diminishing Subject of FOB Relationships

In case you’ve been out of social and sexual reality for the past ten years, then FOB simply stands for “friends with benefits” a concept that on the exterior does not seem that bad. So, you have a good guy/girl (just) friend and why not fill your carnal needs with this somewhat attractive person. Obviously it’s been the main subject of movies and pretty much every millennial’s life. And as everyone already knows, one or both of the people involved in this destructive relationship end up falling in love. aww.

I’m going to rewind this real quick. Why does it always go straight from sex-friends to deep and passionate, the “I can’t live without you” love? Welcome to real life, but that’s not how it always happens. If you ask me, the whole falling in love scenario is the easiest way out. From my experience it hasn’t been that simple.

My currently established FOB relationship is with someone who I most certainly know it not my knight in shining armor, soulmate, other half of me. Charming he may be, but he is far from Mr. Right, which is why this situation is ideal. We find each other attractive, we are friends in the sense that we can hang out sober and know some of each other’s friends. Perfect FOB situation right? WRONG.

Perhaps it is my inescapable Scorpio flaw to be the world’s most jealous temptress. Or maybe it is something that other people experience and are able to suppress it with their “on that fuck it flow” attitude. But I cannot stand that this FOB of mine is having sex with other people.

This is my reasoning:

*I repeat that I do not want this person to be my boyfriend (this is not a delicate, ladylike denial thing. Its fo real)*

1) I do not want to hear about/think about him having sex with other girls- especially days or even hours before and after me (I just think this is gross and realize not everyone will share this opinion)

2) To continue off this last point, Yes! I am in fact jealous. Sorry that I would, during this (probably fleeting) time in ours         lives want to be the only girl that is making you cum on a regular basis. This probably means that deep down inside I am a “relationship girl” but on the exterior people don’t take me seriously enough to be one and plus I haven’t meant my soulmate…so for now I have to wait and have sex with alternates.

3) I don’t like if I contact him I have to consider that he might be with another girl which does nothing to fix my boredom and horniness. That’s what he’s there for anyway.

4) I also feel like this strange sex kitten that he is trying to play with and try weird fetishes on that he doesn’t know if he’s actually into them or not. Believe me, I always want to try new things with new people, and maybe this is a case-by-case basis, but I don’t like being the test rat to find out what you actually like- figure that out then come (cum?) to me.

I realize that most of this may be my own personal problem and I need to figure it out myself. But, I wanted to write about it in case there are other women and men out there who feel the same way and we can commiserate together because let’s get real, we are still gonna have sex with them at the beginning, middle and/or end of the day.